An Open Letter to an Old Friend

Hello old friend

Many years have passed since we last talked, but I have thought of you often along the way. As I wonder how life has unfolded for you, I reflect on the many lessons I have learned since we were last together.

I have learned that life is a series of moments, and that there is only ever is the present moment and what we make of it.

I have learned to become more consciously aware of my thoughts and feelings, and use them to guide me to my best life.

I have learned the fruitlessness of trying to control people and circumstances in order for me to be happy. I still recall the meltdown I had in the destruction and removal of the old cast iron bath.

I have learned that you can never be good enough to make someone else happy. Happiness is an inside out job.

I have learned that my only job is to reach for the feeling of wellbeing in any given moment.

I have learned that life is not meant to be spent largely in pain in order to gain; pain should be a fleeting moment of contrast upon which you act selfishly to find your own harmony.

I have learned that unless you are feeling your own harmony, you have nothing useful to give anyone anyway.