Is Hoping Really Wishful Thinking ? 😇

Today, I had a group meeting. It was about filling in a marketing executive about the progress of a system we are trying to get the college administration to implement for the benefits of the entire student community. We arranged the meeting to explain our plans to him and get some advice. 👍

This piece is not about what that system is all about, but rather about something I said and wrote in our plan and the repercussions of that.

I mentioned the word “hope” in our plan where we talked about our mission and vision for what we wanted to do. While, I was talking about it, I said,“We *hope* to achieve blah blah…..”.

I could instantly see on his face that I had said something wrongly and that he was displeased by it. So, I stopped talking and asked him what was wrong. He said “ Hoping is wishful thinking. You never hope to achieve something. In business and product development, you need plans and execution. Not hope. Hope signifies helplessness. Even worse, it shows you don’t want to make it happen and that you have less confidence in yourself, your team and your plans”.

Now, that interrupted my presentation flow. So I got a bit agitated by it. I did not take his words as positively as I should have.

A couple hours later, I reflected on what happened in that meeting. I kept thinking about what he said.

Here are my two major takeaways from my thought session —

  • Don’t ask for advice if you do not have the stomach to take some real criticism positively. Negative thinking wastes and undermines other person’s time and effort. And if you cannot be selfless enough to consider that, be selfish enough to think that such meetings will be sheer waste of *your time*.
  • He might have exaggerated a bit, but he was right. At some level, he was right. Choosing the right words is crucial. You may have all the confidence from within, but if your presentation does not project that enough, most people are likely to react the way that marketing executive did.

Thanks for reading. Just wanted to document my lessons so that I always remember them from here on out. 👊

Reiterating the lesson —

Hoping is wishful thinking. You never hope to achieve something. In business and product development, you need plans and execution. Not hope. Hope signifies helplessness. Even worse, it shows you don’t want to make it happen and that you have less confidence in yourself, your team and your plans”. 🙌🏻

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