Trying to Find My Mom Niche
No canned personality will ever match the complexity of any woman
I never could fit into the different molds of ‘motherhood’. I tried them all on and nothing fit.
I don’t even know if I even want to identify as any specific type of mom. I couldn’t stand the idea of becoming a Pinterest mom, a wine mom, a hot mess mom, or a soccer mom.
Even if I fit slightly into a particular category, I’d embrace and reject it from one hour to the next.
Tiger mom to free range. Career mom to crunchy granola mom.
I’d be all over the place.
I guess I conflicted on choosing any one kind of specific mom identity. I thought choosing one type of ‘mom’ would help me ‘find my people’. Set me up with a guidelines to follow.
But choosing a canned personality made me feel one-dimensional.
But this feeling is nothing new. Looking back, my entire life doesn’t fit into the mold of the ‘normal’.
Actually, does anyone’s?
My education. My degree. My career. My marriage.
All were custom built to fit perfectly around my life and my needs. Not the other way around. So why would motherhood be any different?
Let’s see this for what it is.
I was trying to fit my life into the predefined personality of an internet quiz. With only a handful of possible outcomes any click-hole questionnaire would be wrong.
I must remember that I am a complex individual therefore I demand an equally complex title. Or better yet, maybe it’s best to have no ‘title’ at all.
I am still a mother, but what kind of mom I will be is completely up to me. Unfortunately that means there will be no guidebook. But that also means there are no preconceived notions to live up to.
At least I can take comfort that nobody else fits into the mold either. Reminding myself that we’re all a bunch of misfits.
You have already found your people. Just look around.
